Characteristics of a Godly Counselor

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We are thankful for God’s Word as we journey this month through the book of Isaiah, and especially, Isaiah 9:6 – “For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders. And he will be called: Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.”

In the first week of our Advent series, we focused on understanding God as our “Wonderful Counselor.” God is the wisest, smartest, most helpful Counselor we could ever have! Jesus is the one who we should ultimately seek. We also remembered that while God is our ultimate Counselor, God also provides other counselors who can help us with our problems. In the sermon, I shared a slide for knowing how we can discern other Godly counselors, and many of you have asked for that list. So here it is:

What are the characteristics necessary for a counselor?

  • Knowledge (Proverbs 24:4): A good mentor is knowledgeable about the word of God and well acquainted with sound teaching. These men and women stick to the solid truths of God’s word and resist trends of “new” teachings.
  • Wisdom (Proverbs 10:14): A good mentor applies the knowledge of God’s word in their everyday interactions with family, friends, and strangers. Their lives are marked with the seasoning of careful reasoning and understanding.
  • Experience (1 Timothy 3:6): A good mentor must have life experiences that have proven his or her perseverance in the faith. Resist following after the advice of a new convert as they may need more time to mature in the faith.
  • Discernment (Philippians 1:10): A good mentor discerns what is good through the Scriptures and prayer. The Holy Spirit gives insight and direction through those who’ve submitted their lives fully to Christ.
  • Truthfulness (Ephesians 4:15): A good mentor will speak the hard truth to you in love. They want you to live righteously and avoid the pitfalls of ignorance.
  • Compassion (Colossians 3:12): A good mentor is marked by their agape love and compassion for God’s people. Their speech and actions towards all people reflects the love of Christ.
  • Integrity (2 Corinthians 1:12): A good mentor strives to live a life of integrity even when the world belittles their stance for what is right. They refuse to bow down to complicity and/or make excuses to justify themselves.
  • Reputation (Proverbs 22:1): A good mentor secures their reputation by making everyday choices that reflect the grace and mercy given to them by Christ. They make great efforts to reveal the influence of Jesus on their lives.

But, don’t forget, earthly counselors can only help you so much. Get the wonderful counselor for your soul. Jesus, the wonderful counselor, has the ability to help us deal with the root cause of all of our deepest problems - so seek first His kingdom, and His righteousness. As Hebrews 4:14-16 tells us, 

"Now that we know what we have—Jesus, this great High Priest with ready access to God—let’s not let it slip through our fingers. We don’t have a priest who is out of touch with our reality. He’s been through weakness and testing, experienced it all—all but the sin. So let’s walk right up to him and get what he is so ready to give. Take the mercy, accept the help."